I am chuckling at a conversation I just had with a friend of mine. She is troubled at how some people can flat out lie to her and in the same sentence proclaim that they are not liars. I pointed out to her that some people honestly don't think they are lying. They just think they are bullshitting and to them bullshitting is not really lying. And those who bullshit, they find that act hysterically convenient because if it works, well, it's not lying, it's bullshitting. I then informed my friend that bullshitters are really liars incognito. They like the title of bullshitters rather than liars because it romanticizes the truth. She chuckled at that and thought for a moment and said, "well, then I'm fluffy." That's my friend and I love her!!!
Your thoughts?
well...... I would tell your fluffy friend that you are right. lying is lying no matter what its called or what form it takes. Like "bending the truth" its still lying. Or language games - its still a form of lying. We expect our children to be honest. So I wonder what is wrong with being honest?? In friendship it can make it stronger. It can help with trust. Lying destroys these things. I have seen it in my life. If you have a true friend then it will work out. I love the majority of my friends some more than others. I try to be honest. After all we all end up in a casket so what is their to lose really? You have to think to yourself was lying, bullshitting, bending the truth really worth that??? I dont think so
ReplyDeleteWell said, my friend!!!
ReplyDeleteBullshitters are aware at least on a subconscious level that what is coming out of their mouth isn't on the up and up or else they wouldn't feel the need to differentiate between being a liar or not. Instead, they would stand behind their words and not try to quantify them by labeling them jokes or things to say to pass the time. And besides, if we are just hanging out and chatting, why is listening to crap better then an honest conversation?
ReplyDeleteI know, Becka...it would be easier too!!
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